Don't fight it, use what happens. These things happen automatically. All you have to do is just let them happen. Put light against light - you have nothing. Put dark against dark - you have nothing. It's the contrast of light and dark that each give the other one meaning. That is when you can experience true joy, when you have no fear. Every single thing in the world has its own personality - and it is up to you to make friends with the little rascals. Everyone is going to see things differently - and that's the way it should be.